You write this just after I go through a day crying, asking myself how it was I was not worth making plans for, taking time out of his workday for, going to lunch with, and actually partnering with?

I found out my oldest beautiful daughter was meeting with her dad on occasions with his girlfriend and having lunch and coffee, etc. at my once-favorite coffee shop. I don't get to go there anymore because I can't handle being in the same space with him. But, there is something to seeing in real time what I was worth, what I wasn't worth that is so painful. All the time and effort he puts into his new life when I had to do all the work in our former one...just to get him to participate. I don't know how to reconcile the feelings of worthlessness in that long, long marriage. But I know I am loved and was even loved then...just not by him. So, it is good. There are just these days. I needed this. Thank you!