You mirrored so many thoughts I've had as well. I love that you played with it and entertained the idea in front of him...and he didn't get all weird and butt-hurt? Sometimes it is hard, even when we know they are happy with US, and have been with us longer than others. They chose us and they choose us today, too. It doesn't make it go away, but I do have to remind myself that it's not about them. My partner had many, many "thems" as well. Long stints as a single man, while I was married, raising children for decades. I hear you, loud and clear. And enjoy your sense of humor:)