Yes!! Victim shaming…talking down like we were supposed to know, supposed to have seen it, supposed to have walked out long ago. You talk about this earlier as well…how do we ever see men without suspecting they have ulterior motives? I mean, even if it’s a s simple as getting us into bed? It’s so hard to believe anything they say after being lied to entire adult life. Actions, gut intuition, these can all confuse us. Guts can say one thing while he is demonstrating the opposite. Abuse renders the gut distrustful often. All men are suspect. All men except men I am related to, I mean. And some women don’t even have that luxury.