Yes, to lose ourselves is so scary...and never to be done again. I have yet to make the checks on your list, but I will. One at a time. In the meantime, to depend on my village and myself for my care is essential. Independence is yet another illusion. Our interdependence is the only truth. We need our individual self, but to be fully integrated in a life...watching the geese, holding hands with a partner, yelling at the kids...lol! Whatever form it takes. Thanks, Yael!