Yes! This is my experience as well. Within my religious culture is where I saw it. Most of the men were wonderful. But my ex, along with his best friends, these....these were the ones who always stood aloof from everyone, were more educated, and made everyone feel stupid. I was so confused by what I was seeing that I just chose to focus on my children. And I did. It wasn't until much later when I had a friend, a therapist sit with me and have a "chat", which lasted an entire day. It was a very revealing day and left me with feelings of shame like nothing else. I didn't know. How could I NOT know? At least I wasn't confused anymore. Gaslighting is powerful and so hard to come to terms with it. It requires us eating humble pie repeatedly, in order to come to terms with our own naivety and ignorance. So glad to hear you have "recovered".