Thomas, my ex, a narcissist, used to make sure to spin everything back at me and call me selfish and narcissistic and…and…

In one of those moments, my self doubt inflamed and I called an old friend of mine, a doctor, a psychologist. She has known me since birth almost. She said one thing that you need to hear as well. She said, “ a narcissist never asked themself if they are a narcissist. The fact that you even ask yourself that questions makes you exempt. We all say things that are hurtful at times. The intention behind it is everything.”

I know I never said hurtful things to manipulate or truly be hurtful. I said them when I was backed into a corner, when I had no space, no air to breathe, no permission to be myself. It was my very core fighting for my own wholeness.

I hear you and every words you have written here. Be well. Heal. Do it for us all.