This was me as well. I never needed him until we had children...to help take "care' of me. I really was the one who took care of everything. He just helped to make some of the money. I hear you in entirety. Mine is threatening to take everything as well...and he has money hidden...and he actually makes good money now...after 27 years. It is amazing how much a man will work when the money is all his. He works harder now than ever...and doesn't have to share anything other than the pittance of child support. Incredible what they can get away with.