This is a good start to looking at how narcissists work in the world. Thank you! There are, however, a few things that are missing. You are talking about one kind of narcissist; an extroverted, showey, one. The other kind of narcissist is a subtle and subversive one. They are confusing as hell and professional gaslighters. They pout and whine about how they are not worthy and are not recognized and their victim stories are their entire lives. As spouses or girlfriends, maybe, (I wouldn't know) we empathize and want desperately to see their success. We hold them up, push them forward, encourage and feed them, put tanks of gas in their cars, get more jobs to pick up the pieces when their jobs pay shit, raise beautiful children to "make" them happy.... and it is all a loss. They never see you. They never see what you have done to help or try to solve their problems. There is NEVER any gratitude or love. There is only a bottomless pit of need. Trying to divorce such a person has been the nightmare of my life for the past 14 months. They are consistently enabled by family that does not know them, friends who will not call them on their BS, and others who have raped their wives in their divorces and convinced the narcissists weak and cowardly mind that he deserves more than he does. He deserves to go away, find his next victim and leave us the hell alone. Be careful, everyone out there. Its a jungle.