This bit is where my emails became a major trigger to my nervous system. I still go into shakes for hours when I get any email from my lawyer. I am working on that with my therapist, however. I do think it is emotional abuse and should be addressed in court. My brother, the lawyer, said to me in reponse to this. "Well, he is allowed to get a lawyer just like you," So cut and dried. The lawyer I got, I entirely paid for, after being told by the ex that he wanted me to file. He didn't want to. So I did. It's as if people have no idea how trauamtizing this situation could be.. Then to have to go to court so many times and pay for it. Amazing! Thanks for your words. Yucky stuff, this.