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The Empath and Narcissist in Love
I am living the game of sorting between what I was told about myself in a marriage and who I truly was. And this game was the gift of being in a marriage to a narcissist for over 27 years. As I sort, I see more and more clearly his unconscious use of my emotions, playing to his advantage every time. The game cost me my psychological as well as physical health for many years. Until I knew I had been missing something.
There are very few things they have in common, narcissists and empaths. The most important and dangerous of all, is the fact that neither of them know, at least until it’s too late, typically.
N-The narc does not know because he would never even think to ask himself the question. Why is it that I don’t have a lot of friends? Why is it that I am unhappy, act depressed all the time, and have a hard time applying myself? Why is it that I don’t want to be with my family for dinner, or their games, shows, recitals?
E-The empath will not ask herself if her partner is a narcissist, because she might not even know there is such a thing, or just make the dangerous assumption that since the narc says he is an empath or a “feeler”, he is. I mean, a person should know what they are, right? She trusts him to know himself as well as she does…and maybe he does.
