That's because it's not. It's never safe. It's a true risk...the most risky thing we can do with our hearts. We have been taught all kinds of things on opposite sides of the spectrum about sex-don't have it till you are married, to you should be fine with hooking up. Yeah, somewhere in the middle, halfway, as you say it. I am for that. I want that as well. You said it so well, again!! Thanks!