Thanks for this. I am, of course, no contact with my ex at this point. But, this makes sense why he cannot, for the life of him, leave us the fuck alone. The divorce is final and he continues to find ways to take money, making my life and the lives of his 4 children impossible. He was always the one with the power, control, charm, status, money, etc... And he still is. I'm just trying to figure out how to take care of us in the midst of his abuse. I didn't know what this was called. I appreciate having the words now. Narcissistic injury. That is why he screamed profanities at me the morning of Mother's Day 5 years ago. It's because I finally realized how NOT to engage in his drama. I had no idea he was a narc at that point. But the rage was terrifying and trauamtizing to his kids. We are still working on it. Likely needing to move out of our home because of the memories it holds for them. For me, it was just another experience of abuse. For them...it was the very first outburst. Lots of healing to do. Sorry for the verbal vomit. I guess I needed to say "Thank you" in a weird way this morning. I really appreciate your work.