Thanks for this. I could see this in my ex boyfriend who has BPD. But I didn’t know that my ex husband’s NPD was the reason for his self sabotage. The man actually was offered his dream job working for the CIA…and earned away from it. He got into a great university abroad for his doctorate…and walked away from that as well.

As the years passes, he had stories as to why he walked away and they always made me look like the bad guy. He said no because it would have been too hard on me…I would have hated it. When, all along I had done nothing but support and do everything possible to see him succeed. So interesting.