Thanks for being open about how you came to where you are. Its all valid! When you've been hurt, you've not been hurt by an ideology. You've been hurt by a person who is living into that ideology in a way, justifying their own bad behavior by it's tenets.We owe so much to feminism. Women would still not be voting and not owning property...and would really still be property ourselves. Some of us remained so even past that point in time. I know I was inside my marriage. Keep reading things you don't agree with in entirety. It helps me when I do so. It seems to help me redefine my story, using different and more succinct terminology. Best wishes to you!