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Suffering is Inevitable for the Single Mom
Why do we accept this as the norm?
How many times have I been told in this divorce process that it was going to take at least three years to get my feet on the ground?
(and I think three MORE years?…I’ve been trying to get my feet under me for 25 years already!)
How many times have I heard about other women in their complete devastation, post-divorce, having to move back in with their parents or even their own children?
(This, after we bear them children. This, after sometimes having those children taken from us. This, after we struggle through decades of education for our spouses. There are so many variations and they are all painful.)
How many more women are going to have to start from scratch after the courts show no regard for the work and worry of decades of their lives?
Damn us for putting our partners first!
Damn us for putting our children first!
Damn us for wanting “the good life” we were told we would have if we followed the equation!
It didn’t work. And we are the ones left, suffering.
And why do we, as a society, accept this as a norm? It is really okay to see half of the population of women suffering, for no…
