Such a great article. Thanks! This part...this was my life. Except he never did try. I was the queen of projection...of love, of adoration, of security, even. It took a long time to realize it. I fell out of love with him decades before I was brave enough to leave, but still loved him. I didn't know what had happened. I just knew something was broken. And he always told me it was me....Amazing how time shifts perspective. Thanks again!