Such a cop-out! You have said it all so perfectly again. ..the excuses they make for their behavior. My ex always talked about how abused he was in the academic world by being the "nice guy". He had the most brilliant of ideas, of course, and those "feminist bitch" bosses he had didn't want to listen to him. Probably because he was a man, he said.

I have no doubt about why they dismissed him now. At the time, I totally misunderstood his self-esteem issues as being just that...confidence problems due to being bullied. But he is an arrogant bastard of a man. So...no more excuses, please, men. Grow the fuck up and take responsibility for yourselves. Don't try to make us think you are abused and mistreated, mistaken and victims of your biological needs. Give us a break.