Simply, thank you. Speaking from experience as well, your smart and unemotional coverage of the topic is invaluable and wise. The shame came later…after I realized the harm done to the wife. How could I do this to someone I loved? She is a good woman and doesn’t deserve this. So, yes, this relationship has to be over. I must walk away. And who am I to say he might not leave someday? Who am I to say if there might not be something like a “happily ever after” story come out of this someday. But in this moment, right is right. Thank you for stepping out of your shame cycle and having the strength to talk about hard, shame-filled and gritty topics.