OMG. If that's not the truth. The shaming we experience for "doing too much" is incredible. And...all without an offer to help. Just help. So, we have to set the parameters, make the changes ourselves, get shamed for "not doing enough" then, and do right by ourselves and our daughters, alone. Without the support, emotional or physical, of most of the men on the planet. And...when a man does offer support and help, we can make the pretty wise assumption that he wants in our pants. Because they usually do, even if they are not honest enough with themselves to acknowledge it. Thanks for your writing. We need it.