Omg!! Did I just highlight your whole piece? I sure wanted to. Thank you for writing this. I know more and more through reading things like this that all of those years I felt so alone, i really wasn’t. I also wasn’t ready to know the truth either. My marriage broke down differently, but still, the realizations are still rolling in and who I was is still very much influencing who I am today. Asking for what I need and not compromising are my hardest bits of being in a relationship. So hard. Best wishes to you, sister!!