Oh, sister, do I feel ya! The full weight of responsibility for children is hard enough without the financial stuff heaped on top. Mine are a little younger than yours, but it doesn't matter. Because they are OURS FOREVER. When they move away and start their lives, they are not "out of sight, out of mind". They are forever in our hearts, our prayers, and on our minds. Their problems to solve are our probems to help solve. It is never over and its okay. But...to do it alone is too much. Totally with you. A partner is a dream I hope to wake up to someday.