Michelle,

I love this and plan to follow this advice the rest of my life. I, however, think that sex can be a distraction of sorts. My marriage of 26 plus years was held together with the glue that was sex. I had sex with him and that was my only sexual outlet..no self-pleasure, nothing. If I wanted sex, which I almost always did, it was him. I could not imagine a week without it. Even when I hated him, we had sex. Even after he moved out, we had sex. We don't anymore and I love myself for it. NOT having sex with him has been liberating and has allowed me the ability to see him for who he truly it; a narcissistic man with an ego the size of Texas. I am healthier NOT having sex now, especially with him. I love your words, but I think sex can be a band-aid that needs to be ripped off quickly and painfully sometimes.