Mandy, I once heard a comedian say something like “When you tell a girl she’s pretty, you are basically saying, “congratulations on your face. Because she has so little to do with it.” We win the genetic lottery or we don’t. There are consequences and pain either way. ANd I agree. I am so glad I have not recieved venom due to writing this. It is heartfelt and sincere and I think people noticed that I wasn’t whining. It is a real thing. Thanks for responding. I am sorry you resonate with it. I think there is so much silence around so many topics. It will be nice to normalize voicing our honest lives. Let’s do it together, okay?