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Introspection: Is It That Hard?
It must be, or else we would all do it, right? I am confident enough to say that some of us do it more easily than others. And others, still, have no idea what the word even means.
I was at work the other night when an old friend came in. He is newly divorced and was telling me a little about his process; what he was focusing on and how he was healing from the abuse or misuse of his ex-wife-who was my friend, actually. He mentioned the names of a couple of books he had read and reread. He wrote the names down and was so excited to share them with me. He told me about how he suggested to students that they read them, BEFORE they got into long-term relationships.
The books are about being responsible for yourself. In other words, not depending on someone else for your happiness, and understanding your innate power. The deepest injuries we receive when in relationships is when we relinquish our power to the other’s whims. We become, subconsciously, at least, a play toy for their ego. Once the ball is in their court, they will not give it back. And if we try to regain control of our own power, we will have hell to pay-but pay we must.
And oftentimes, that payment looks like divorce or a split of some type, at least for a time. As a divorcee, I see my that my lack of honest introspection drove my marriage into the ground. I could not and would…
