I'm so sorry you are having to read these hurtful words, even though she is celebrating her own experience. As much as I have not lived without children, I can only imagine how difficult it has been for you, knowing you have always wanted to find that partner, settle down and have your own kiddos. To be sensitive to others whose lives have not gone as they had planned is essential.

As a mother, I have been forced to acknowledge that the village was invaluable. My brothers were my lifesavers when I had 4 little ones under the age of 6. Uncles, aunts and church friends were lifelines for me as I was living as a practically single mom. They saved me so many times. There are so many things about being a mom that catch us off guard and that we cannot be prepped for. The anxiety, lack of sleep and lack of adult interaction is paralyzing. The other adults in our lives who don't have children have the kind of energy we need and provide essential relief.

You are so very appreciated. To extend yourself, go outside your comfort zone and spend valuable time with children is exactly what is needed for them...and for you. The reason I highlighted this bit is because I don't totally agree. I think men have had it too easy. Our expectations have been too limited. Their lack of understanding the opportunities of growth inherent in family life-whether they are their children or not-retards their individual growth. It is easier to be self-centered and NOT extend ourselves. But, the happiest people in the world are not living alone, in a cave, or on an island. We need community and community requires us...all of us. Yes, we are whole, alone. But, we are better together and we should expect this "full potential" will be even more full when we look outward to where we are needed. This is a very complex conversation. Thank you for your writing, as always!!