I would like to say that they have heard nothing out of my mouth, but they are too old not to have heard things. The betrayal has been on too large a scale to have been able to hide it. Our whole community has been there for us through this, even though it’s been awful. They do love him. But they do need to see who he is before he confuses them even more. I had nothing to do with said chaos, except a single choice I made when I was about their age. So, I relinquish that shame to another, more appropriate place. I grew up with blinders on about the world and possibilities it held. I caused the very problem I am stuck trying to solve now. Blinders off might be painful, but its painful now, and not later, when they are living consequences like this in their own marriages. No thank you. I appreciate your comments!