I think your ex has a twin. It's my ex.

Mine would say to the kids, "Your mama is the smartest woman I know". Immediately afterward he would find some way to make me feel so stupid I didn't want to talk...ever again.

I hear you. Keep writing.

One thing i wonder about is, is that your ex got diagnosed? Really? Someone had the balls to diagnose him and he actually went through with it? I could not get mine to go to an actual therapist who could diagnose him. He was so charismatic that all of the therapist-who happened to be women-would always send him home telling him he had it all figured out. That's at least what he told me. Then, made sure to tell me that I was the problem in so many words. "It must be you, " he would say.

Another good one, sister!