I really appreciate your writing this and SOOOO many people reading it. Yay! I grew up with being told that self-care was selfish, so I've had to learn a nice balance. It has been hard. Those voices are still in there. But...to go to the other end of the spectrum is something I see altogether too often. We need to rest. We need to laugh. We need to sit and read and drink tea. But...we also need to integrate ourselves and love others and serve them with our gifts and skills. Fulfillment is different than self-care. Thanks for sharing your wisdom!