I like what you are saying here, but I tend to see that our second..not the first.. is something we always had. Something that brought stability. For me, physical touch is primary, but secondary is quality time. I was raised in a wonderful, non-touching German family. We had nothing but time...it was just perfect. So, to have that, is imperative. I know what that kind of love feels like, even if I did miss out on the touch as a child. The missing piece and the familiar. Maybe that makes sense to others as well. Thanks for writing this!