I just learned about this recently as well. I always wondered how people could "hook up" or sleep with people they didn't love. I can't. It feels gross just thinking about it. And unethical. And a lot of things. It's been a difficult thing having men who I love NOT be this way. One cheated on me in one of these "hook ups" one night, out of nowhere. And it still makes no sense at all. Being demisexual seems so counterintuitive to being linked with asexual. That is interesting. It just means we have ethics around our sexuality. If libido determined my sexuality, I'd be just like everyone else my age was like in high school or college. Libido didn't rule. I don't know. I can't help but think that having some sexual ethics equals demisexuality. Am I not seeing that right?

Thanks for writing about this. It is rather shocking to see that I am part of a community of people who don't just want to have sex with anyone at anytime...and somehow that makes me different? I don't know how I feel about that.