I hear you. But, if you will read more carefully, you will see that I did not blame any man for anything. MY friends husband is one of the most honorable and good men I know. I have an amazing father, brothers, and cousins. I have no problem with men. in the last paragraph, you will notice there is a word...IF. If you are..... I am not accusing. I am offering suggestions. Solutions. Different ways of looking at the problem. I am sorry you heard that in my words. It was not intended.