I hear you. I never said women have their shit together. I have seen the opposite many times as well. Your experience is different than mine. We can both tell our stories. That's why we write.

And I agree about marriage. Traditional marriage was the one that served men..and men only. Now, marriage can aim to serve both..and ends up serving none. Because, I repeat, don't meet in the middle. Men, often, do not know how to meet in the middle. The best of women and men do a great job. But they are BOTH doing it. The men listen, and bend, and give, and find a way to the middle. The women learn, slowly and carefully, to ask the men to meet them there and give them help to get there. I don't know a single solitary woman who hasn't had to teach her husband how to do this. And I know some pretty awesome couples and men. It says something about the way tradition has not served men nor women in this regard.