I hear you. women don't leave for many reasons. What I notice is that men allow for some kind of security. We are also fighting our religious upbringings and cultural norms. I did not leave for 25 years for no other reasons than those. I thought my family would shun me. I thought I would lose all of my friends. I lost all of my financial security and the courts allowed him everything. And I have four children. We don't leave because its terrifying. And it's hardly better on the other side. Just different. Thank God!