I have not even gotten to the end yet and NEED to say "Thank you!" Having been deeply burned by an incredibly psycho-sexually immature mentor, I know this part well. Wilbur's wisdom is amazing. I love that cleaning up and growing up are part of his model...the lack of these is so pervasive in the "follow your heart" and enlightenment movements. As one who was terribly burned by such a "guru", I fully support all conversations around this topic. Thank you for writing about it!