I also think that a lot of men don't think their wives like sex. I think a lot of men feel alone in this. I also believe a lot of women feel alone in this as well. We just don't talk about it enough. We don't keep the playfulness and fun active in it. We lose interest, we get tired. We don't set aside time. Then....we make stupid assumptions that the other person doesn't want it. I think, as a mom, I needed to be "turned on" at different moments in my marriage. I wanted to see him show up to dinner, to play with the kids, to fix the washer without bitching. I was "turned off" constantly by neglect and abandonment and shaming. I lost interest in sex because I couldn't even get him to come to the dinner table with us. Its complicated in a long term relationship. Tough stuff!!