Goodness. I'll wait. This is great! You are amazing. and I really appreciate your taking the time. I think I personally understand the difference between a person who is overly selfish/self-centered and one who lives in a different reality (NPD) like my ex. But both are NURTURE bases, not nature. I am too close to it not to know that. And parents have most everything to do with controlling what happens to their children. Or they should, rather! Looking forward to what you have to say!! Thank you.