Get back in the saddle, they say. I see very clearly why that is a BAD idea.

Dating a man with deep trauma, betrayal, psychological abuse issues, and a struggle with self-worth has taught me a lot. Taking time to reflect, open, honest discussions, and lots of space are essential to do our work. Passion for life in general needs to be first and foremost. I know that because that is the thing men have always seen in me. As much as life sucks, I am always engaged, digging deeper and finding new ways to stretch and grow. I like that in a man as well. Nothing sexier, I say!