Every man I've been with has had this story. Every one. Except who I am with now. Every one of them feels abused by the system men put in place for them to succeed and hold power. They do. And they have no concept or compassion for the women they hold prisoner. I am going to read the rest of this, but had to stop there. My god, lady, you hit the nail on the head. We fall for their sob stories because we've been trained to love and care and nurture them in a harsh world...as if we have anyone to do that for us!