Dennis, I cannot be happier to see that you are doing the work you are! Thank you. And while I know that there are plenty of women out there who totally suck as well, I know there is a plague among men. The disconnection they experience from themselves and from the realities they create is quite amazing. I appreciate your words. The pain, going through the years of growth, alone, was excruciating. I avoided divorce BECAUSE it would cause him pain, that I could help avoid....for him. Then, I realized that the pain was the answer. And apparently, being married wasn't painful enough for him to make changes through honest and thorough introspection, a skillset I think a lot of poeple lack. Kudos to you and thank you for reading!!