Crystal, this article is so well written and speaks to so many of our experiences! So many times, we have someone, who admits their brokenness, only to require vast amounts of energy to accomodate their healing journey. It's not right or fair. I do, however, feel that we heal best inside relationships, which is why I loved your comment about bravery. Our words and actions need to be brave, to be sure. To be strong and care for ourselves first requires bravery. I really appreciate what you have said here. We, women and men, both, have a lot of work to do, letting go of trying to "fix" or digging in and doing the work, whatever is needed.