Cosette, you hit the nail on the head, to be sure. I spent about 15 years thinking about how devastating it would be for him to NOT wake up with his kids everyday, NOT have an intact family, NOT have all the support and love we gave him. And, yeah, what did I find out? I found out that I had been projecting all of it, all along. This is something I had to write, even though life has almost fully moved on. I just think its unfortunate when we bypass chances to grow. I know I didn't and I still am on that growth journey, hard as it is. Thanks for reading and commenting!!