Can I say how much I love that all the comments thus far are by men?? They are reading this. I love this article so very much. I never read the first one, but this one speaks to me very much at this age...just a little older than you. I am starting at the beginning, wiping the slate clean of the 27 year marriage I am just out of. Never, ever he do any of these things for me...pancakes...really? It's time to ask for what we need, or just get lucky and have a man we don't have to ask. Can you even imagine that?