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Awareness in Relationships
Human relationships are the hardest, most challenging thing we will ever do. Its just a fact. We will always meet the most difficult parts of ourselves in those spaces. What we see in others, is what we are either scared to death of, or love, in ourselves. There is nothing about relationships that we can disconnect from. It is not always about us. But here is where we learn about ourselves…our limitations, our passions, our ability to support and be supported, love, and be loved.
It is not for the faint of heart.
Just this morning, my boyfriend and I had a little bit of a heated discussion. He has severe social anxiety. It is paralyzing at times. But…he wants to work on it. So, he went to a wedding I officiated last weekend…and to the party afterward. He went to my nephew’s grad party last night with me. He knows he does not need to go. I don’t need him to go. I am so used to going it alone, with kids, that taking him along is not really a “thing” for me. I am grateful for the company, but I had to learn-the hard way-that the best company needs to be myself, or I am in really big trouble.
But he comes along. He stays right by my side and doesn’t really talk. I try to draw him into conversations, but he doesn’t speak much. Sometimes, he does a pretty good job. But, this is real work for me. I don’t mind it, because I care about him. And…people are…
