And its about goddamned time we did. I am not saying I think cheating is the way to do it, but to feel fully alive, appreciated, and express ourselves in a safe place... who is to say that doing that in a marriage is even possible? I, for one, know differently. I wish that kind of marriage for myself and others, but in reality, for most of us, marriage is filled with gender inequality, manipulation, power and control issues, and boredom. Boredom...that might be my biggest complaint...that is until he tried to ruin my life and I learned the word "gaslighting". Now, it's different. If cheating is what it takes for a woman to take back her power, I will not be in the line to shame her, just saying.