Amen! These are the 3 statements that I thought were just the "hard part of married life". It was not until I got smacked in the face (not physically) enough times that I realized I am only responsible for myself; my own anger, my own happiness and my part of the relationship. Being told "marriage and relationships are just hard" repeatedly for over 2 decades did not help, either. The kind of "hard" I was dealing with was nothing like what they were talking about. Then getting into a relationship afterward with a man who was just as willing to blame me for all of the relationship problems, make no real changes himself and yell at me, even on zoom calls, drilled it even further into my thick skull. Thank God for second and third chances to getting this right, or at least better:)