All of these constant fight-or-flight reactions are destroying my body.

I hear you loud and clear here. I am in not in your situation, as he is out of the house and I have sold custody of the kids. But the battle has been so full of surprises due to my naivete and blindness. I never would have known he could have been so cruel and disconnected from reality. I am shaking all the time as well and hoping that someday, something will work. Therapy, CBD, L-theanine, more stress complexes, etc...all help, but nothing works. Being rid of them for YEARS might. The stories need to die. We need new stories, sister! We can do this!