A million comments about this, but I’ll try to keep it short. Carrie, thank you for the reminder. Those of us who have been there can feel the words you write here. The pattern is hard to break and even causes us to lose hope that there are actually healthy people out there. Yes, we are part of the problem, but heavens, where are the stable, kind, honest ones? The one part of this that made me laugh is the “missing the love bombing”. Yeah, my ex never did that. The first man out of the gate did, however. I had no idea what to do with it and thought it actually meant something. I learned pretty quickly, thankfully. Hopefully I’m off the roller coaster for good now, but that phrase is what decided we were over. Narcs don’t like being told that living with them is like riding a roller coaster. Tried that…and it didn’t go well. But when I finally had the guts to talk, I had to do it. Thanks for this!