It’s nice to meet you. I’m a mom and nature lover, but more than that, I love the nature inside myself and how that has fed all of the other parts of me. My favorite places at home are in the barn, in the gardens, and under the silver maples…

Instead of looking at the real problem — Why are some people resilient in the face of deep grief and trauma while others end up in psych wards or dealing with chronic pain, anxiety, or depression? This is “The Million Dollar Question,” according to my theology professor. I’m studying pastoral care with a focus on feminism and trauma-informed…

…About True Love in Middle Age — Love is so many things. It is exhilarating, exciting, energizing, and sometimes confusing as hell. That’s just part of the fun. When you are young, that kind of energy is what you want. The roller coaster is welcome. You have the energy for that. I remember it well. …

…for Those Who Mock — I lived for many years in a marriage with a man who thought I was inconvenient. My anxiety was inconvenient. My desire for him to be home for dinner was inconvenient. My need for him to help with the kids, fix things around the house…these were inconvenient as well. My…

Sorting this, once and for all — Why is it so hard to ask for what we need? Is it easier for some and harder for others? Why do some people get what they need more readily than others? What teaches a person that what they need matters…that someone gives a shit? …

Divorce can do it as nothing else can — My divorce and the following relationship brought out parts of myself that I had formerly not known. The woman I had been — the organized, hard-working, friendly woman — turned into something quite different. And that “difference” was characterized by fear, to the point of near-hysterics. For the first time…

It’s where we begin, not end — Disclaimer: I am aware that all kinds of voices are silenced. Any oppressed population down to one, single man, molested by an older sister’s friend or church authority figure…every one counts. But this article is specifically about women. Hysteria, only ever assigned to women (thus the terminology that points to…

A year later, I finally have words — It was about a year ago when my then-boyfriend slept with an old friend of his. She just showed up one evening at his home, sad about the death of a common friend. So, they sat together, cried together, drank together…then slept together. Knowing his major issue with impulse control…

A Step-by-Step Guide… — My background research in this area is extensive. As a student of Narcissistic Personality Disorder for over 2 decades and Borderline Personality Disorder for the years since, the data quite clearly points to an enabling partner being a vital part of the equation. They were painful and in-depth studies. All…